Every so often I venture in to the ever bitchy realm of wedding forums and then I am driven away by what I read.
I very rarely engage in any form of discussion on these forums, mainly because there are often bridezillas lurking behind their laptops ready to put you down for any wedding planning decision you make. From the decisions a bride makes on her destination, to the price tag on her dress, there is always going to be something wrong with the choices made.
The brides that receive the highest number of bad words from bridezillas are usually those who want a fairytale wedding. Today I read an article in The Daily Mail, telling all brides to opt for practical over beautiful when it comes to their wedding dress. The basis of this article revolved around the idea that marriages are forever and the assumption that brides who desire a fairytale wedding are less than aware of this.
I want a gorgeous wedding dress. I'll work for it, save for it and spend a lot of money on it. Yes it will be worn only once, but my wedding is going to be my only one, my only big day and my desire to be flamboyant does not mean I am unaware of the fact that years of marriage lie beyond the sparkle, the champagne and my fairytale destination.
Yet somehow those who want the fairytale are perceived as being bimbos who could not care less about commitment. The Daily Mail article suggests that we want the big wedding and only the big wedding. That is not the case! Why should I be patronised over my wedding dreams?
It may seem like a small thing to be irritated about, but the cries of budget brides declaring 'Why not get married in your local registry office?' bug me. There is nothing wrong with a registry wedding, my mum had one, but I don't want one. I would not look down on anyone who has one, so why should I be patronised over my wedding choice?
This is all a far cry from my Yahoo Answers debates with one lady who persistently asked me why I did not get married when pregnant to save the morality of my daughter...I won't even revisit that, I'll end the post right here.